Over to Seven Sharp now. A couple of hangers on tonight. One of the special guests tonight is not here. The opening discussion will be tardiness. PRIME MINISTER, A RADIO HOST AND A FORMER ALL BLACK TALK FATHERHOOD, BUT DO THEY FACE THE SAME ISSUES AS REGULAR DADS? NOT BEING ABLE TO PROVIDE FOR MY DAUGHTER ` FOR ME, THAT'S THE BIGGEST WORRY. AND MEET TUSSOCK,... GOD HELP YOU IF YOU DON'T ASK FOR THE BUCKET IF YOU WANNA BE SICK. ...THE DESIGNATED SOBER DRIVER FOR AN ENTIRE TOWN. PLUS ` AARGH! (SCREAMS) MY GOD! (BREATHES HEAVILY) LAUGHS: OH MY GOD. OUR RESIDENT EASY-TO-SCARE REPORTER GOES INTO WELLINGTON'S LITTLE HOUSE OF HORRORS LIVE ON AIR. (LAUGHS CREEPILY) DUE TO THE LIVE NATURE OF SEVEN SHARP, WE APOLOGISE FOR THE LACK OF CAPTIONS FOR SOME ITEMS. Looking forward to tonight. WE'VE ALL SEEN THE ADS ABOUT BEING A LIFESAVER BY STOPPING SOMEONE DRIVING DRUNK. WELL, TONIGHT YOU ARE GOING TO MEET A REAL LIFESAVER ` SOMEONE WHO'LL GET UP AT ANY HOUR, MANY TIMES A NIGHT, JUST TO GET PEOPLE HOME SAFE. PEOPLE SHE MAY NOT EVEN KNOW. HER NAME IS JUDY RENDELL. SHE'S FROM OXFORD IN NORTH CANTERBURY. BUT SHE'D PREFER IT IF YOU CALL HER TUSSOCK. THERE'S A MOMENT AFTER A BIG NIGHT OUT WHEN PERHAPS YOU'RE A LITTLE OVERHYDRATED AND IT'S TIME TO CALL IT A DAY. YOU NEED A DRIVER, A LIFESAVER. IN OXFORD, THEY TEXT TUSSOCK. COME ON, GET IN THE VAN. AND AT ANY HOUR SHE'LL COME OUT. SHOTGUN FRONT. SHE'LL BE THERE EVERY TIME REGARDLESS OF THE DRAMA. GLASS BREAKS, LAUGHTER SHE'S PATIENT. SHE PROVIDES RELIEF STOPS. LAUGHTER YOU'RE JUST NOT QUITE SURE WHAT THE HELL WILL HAPPEN. THIS IS JUST ANOTHER NIGHT OUT FOR TUSSOCK RENDELL. HANG ON. WE'RE GOING AROUND A CORNER. YOU HANG ON TOO. TUSSOCK, OR JUDY RENDELL, TAKES SOBER DRIVING SERIOUSLY. SHE BRINGS FLUIDS... NOBODY REMEMBERS THE SOBER PERSON. ...AND BLANKETS AND CONTAINERS. BUT YOU DON'T WANT BIG BUCKETS. THEY TEND TO TIP THEM SUCKERS OVER. BUT THE BUCKETS, THEY'RE THE KEY. GOD HELP YOU IF YOU DON'T ASK FOR THE BUCKET IF YOU WANT TO BE SICK. TUSSOCK HAS GONE THROUGH FIVE CARS SOBER DRIVING FOR OXFORD FOR 19 YEARS. SO NOW A LOCAL FIRM LOAN HER THEIR VAN. WE CAN SUPPORT HER WITH THE VAN, WELL, IT'S PRETTY EASY PART COMPARED TO THE BIT THAT SHE DOES. THAT'S STEVE MACAULAY. HE AND KEVIN MEHRTENS RESCUED THE VAN THAT NOW RESCUES THE KIDS. THE DOOR FELL OFF OUTSIDE THE POLICE STATION, AND SO THEY STOPPED AND PICKED IT UP AT 3 IN THE MORNING, PUT IT IN THE BACK AND THEN DECIDED IT WASN'T WORTH FIXING. TUSSOCK OFTEN TAKES KEVIN'S SON HOME. 2 O'CLOCK IN THE MORNING WHEN YOU WAKE UP, YOU THINK, 'OH, I WONDER HOW THAT BOY'S GETTING ON,' AND YOU HEAR THE VAN JUST QUIETLY PULL UP IN THE DRIVEWAY, EVEN THOUGH HE SAYS HE'S HOME BY 12. TUSSOCK RENDELL KNOWS ABOUT DRINKING ` MORE THAN JUST TEA. FOR A LONG TIME LIQUOR WAS A PART OF HER DAILY ROUTINE. I WAS PRETTY MUCH EVERYDAY, SO YOU START TO THINK TO YOURSELF... ESPECIALLY AS MY DAUGHTER WAS GROWING OLDER. YEAH, IT WAS PARTY SCENE EVERY WEEKEND, SORT OF THING. I WAS ONE OF THE DRINK DRIVERS. SO THE FIRST PARTY SHE WENT TO SOBER, SHE TOOK PEOPLE HOME. AND I THINK IT GAVE ME A LITTLE SENSE OF PURPOSE. MAKE SURE YOUR HAIR'S ALL RIGHT. YEAH. MM. MOST WEEKENDS WHEN I'M OUT AND ABOUT AND THERE'S A PARTY, TUSSOCK'S ALWAYS OUT THERE DRIVING HER VAN AROUND, PICKING UP THE KIDS AND GETTING THEM HOME SAFELY. CONSTABLE AARON CAMPBELL SAYS SHE'S INVALUABLE IN A TOWN WITHOUT A TAXI SERVICE. GIVEN THE LOCATION OF THE PARTIES, THEY'RE NORMALLY OUT RURALLY IN THE PADDOCK, IT'S DARK ROADS, NO FOOTPATHS. SO IF SHE'S GIVING THEM A RIDE HOME, WE KNOW THEY'RE NOT WALKING DOWN THE STREET AND BEING COLLECTED BY CARS IN THE 100K AREAS. TUSSOCK GOES OUT MOST WEEKENDS. SHE'LL GET UP AT ANY TIME. JUST ASK AROUND AT THE PUB. ABOUT 6.30, 7 O'CLOCK IN THE MORNING, DROPPING ME OFF AT THE FRONT GATE AS I STUMBLE DOWN THE DRIVEWAY. SHE STAYS THERE AND KEEPS THE HEADLIGHTS ON SO I DON'T WALK INTO THE FENCE. SHE'S ALWAYS READY TO BUST YOUR NUTS IF YOU CRACK IT ON. THEY ALL HAVE A STORY ABOUT TUSSOCK TAKING THEM HOME. AND TUSSOCK TOOK ME HOME AT, LIKE, 4 O'CLOCK IN THE MORNING. THAT'S SO NOT. YOU WERE LYING IN THE GARDEN, MATE. THAT'S WHY SHE TOOK YOU HOME, MATE. I MIGHT HAVE HAD A SIESTA. ALL LAUGH TUSSOCK SAYS SHE DOESN'T JUDGE THE KIDS. DOESN'T LOOK DOWN ON THEM IF THEY DRINK TOO MUCH. SHE LEARNS FROM THEM. SOMETIMES YOU ARE JUST DRIVING ALONG, AND THE MOST STRANGEST CONVERSATIONS WILL COME OUT OF THE KIDS, AND YOU THINK, 'OH MY GOD, I THINK I'LL JUST DRIVE A BIT SLOWER,' BECAUSE THEY'RE ALL CONNECTING. DID YOU GET YOUR CAR STARTED? TUSSOCK KNOWS THE KIDS, AND THEY TRUST HER. SHE DOESN'T TELL THE PARENTS WHAT GOES ON. I HAD TO STICK UP FOR YOU WHEN THAT OLD MAN WAS GONNA, BLOODY, DOB YA. THERE'S NO DOUBT THAT SHE'S SAVED LIVES IN OXFORD. I'D SAY SHE IS A LIFESAVER. I'D SAY TUSSOCK'S SAVED QUITE A FEW LIVES IN HER TIME. SHE LOVES THAT TIME OF THE EARLY MORNING WHEN SHE GETS HOME, HAS A GLASS OF MILK AND POSTS ON FACEBOOK THAT EVERYONE IN O-TOWN IS SAFE. YEAH, THEY'RE ALL ALIVE. THAT'S JUST THE MAIN THING. That is amazing. I think a candidate for the ASB good as gold. ALL RIGHT, IT'S TIME TO BRING IN THE LADS. WE HAVE MARC ELLIS, JOHN KEY AND SIMON BARNETT IN TO TALK FATHERHOOD AND GET THEIR SECRETS ON BEING A GOOD DAD AHEAD OF FATHER'S DAY. AND HELPING A WORTHY CAUSE BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY. WE HAVE PEOPLE WET THEMSELVES. WE HAVE PEOPLE THAT HAVE CODE BROWNS. HONESTLY? YES, YES, VERY MUCH SO. SOUNDS LIKE THE PERFECT THING TO PUT REBECCA THROUGH LIVE ON THE SHOW. THIS WEEKEND IS FATHER'S DAY ` A DAY WHEN MEN FROM ALL CORNERS OF OUR COUNTRY PUT THEIR FEET UP, UNWRAP A PAIR OF SOCKS AND GET SOME COLD TOAST BROUGHT TO THEM IN BED. Marc Ellis picked Neil Diamond's holly tonight. FATHERHOOD COMES IN ALL SHAPES AND SIZES, SO TONIGHT WE WANT TO GET AN IDEA OF HOW A FEW HIGH-PROFILE KIWI DADS MANAGE THE HONOUR. SIMON BARNETT, MARC ELLIS AND JOHN KEY ARE ALL WITH US. Thank you all for coming in. This Father's Day a big deal in your house? It is a pretty big deal. I am home, which is nice. It is nice to have the kids around. It does not have to be about a big expensive gift. We do not do the present thing. I know you can afford the odd tie, Prime Minister, but we do the home-made cards. There are four daughters, so it is a full bed. You are not invited, Mark. You do have snuggles with your little girl. She is only six, and we do have snuggles in bed. Shee gave me a kiss on the nose. WE ASKED DADS ON THE STREET WHAT THEIR BIGGEST WORRY WAS. HAVING THREE TEENAGE DAUGHTERS, (CHUCKLES) WHAT THEY'RE UP TO ON SATURDAY NIGHT. SAFETY OF YOUR KIDS. SAFETY, YEAH. THAT'S A BIG CONCERN. PROBABLY EXPOSURE TO TOO MUCH INFORMATION. INSTAGRAM, THEIR SNAPCHAT, FACEBOOK, WHATEVER. NOT BEING ABLE TO PROVIDE FOR MY DAUGHTER. BEING ABLE TO PROVIDE FOR MY FAMILY ALL THE TIME. THAT'S PRETTY MUCH IT. CONSTANTLY ON MY MIND, YEP. Simon, what is your biggest concern? The worst thing that could ever happen is for your kids to be ashamed of you. You think about that a lot? I want to be the best that I can be. The biggest thing for me is that love is spelt TIME. Every night we have 15 minutes on the end of the bed with my girls. It sounds like a lot. But Seven Sharp is half an hour. Has your parenting changed depending on how old your children are? We have let them have a bit more Room as they turned over 18, which has been tricky. You never sleep properly until they actually in bed. His king hit stuff really terrifies me that someone will do something crazy without thinking. Mark, would you describe yourself as a helicopter parent? I went through different stages myself. When they are little you want to be with them all the time. But if you get a certain stages you want to let them go further. You have got to give them their chance to grow. You cannot nurture to heavily. Streetwise over bookwise. THat is the kid that survives the king hit because they know how to walk away. WHen they get to 15 or 16, parents give away and think they have done their bit, but that is where I think the real parenting starts. IF your children want pink hair, who cares? But if they want to try marijuana, sit with them and talk about it. WE have been having this debate about if it is OK to take your kids out of school during term time. I can genuinely say that we never did that. But I do think, myself, OK, if there are some particularly special event, or you are doing a really big experience, it is possible that people learn from that experience as well. It is a matter of showing your judgement and having dexterity. I do not think that you can say that you can never take a day, but just being fear on the rest of the class and the teacher. Did you petition Air NZ to drop their fares over the school holidays? :LAUGHTER boys versus girls? A different approach? Definitely. I do not think I am bipolar, but I have a different approach. I find myself Telling my son to cut something out that my daughter had alrdady done. WHat is the best thing about being a dad, Simon? IT is the toughest job in the world, but it is the most rewarding job. Every time I see my daughters, my heart skipped a beat. I just love the more than life itself. It is a privilege to be a parent, not a right. I think there are some tissues under herE. I cried during finding Nemo. This is the guy that cry during maid in Manhattan. It is differently different with boys and girls. Boys can be as complicated as girls but that happens a bit later then them. The most important thing is unconditional love. They are not looking for something. They just want affection. You get just as much affection from boys. Max and I have lots of hugs. I just that the complications happen a little earlier than girls. We talked earlier about the embarrassment factor Here is a clip. Boo! What about these guys? You a more public. You were washing your son's car. I got home and said I had to tidy up the garage. I said I would wash your car, Bronagh. Everything was clean and then I looked at Max's car and it was filthy. Half of me said I should clean it, half of me said it was sending the wrong message. When I did the catwalk modelling. There has been a few. I think the handshake was the best. Max was watching television and looked at me and said, you know I go to an all boys school, don't you? Mark is in this book. It is an amazing collection of 36 fathers giving their inspirational quotes. We will give away a couple of these signed by these three days here. Go on our Facebook page. IT'S DARK, SCARY AND FULL OF TERROR AND, ODDLY ENOUGH, THE PERFECT PLACE TO HELP KIWI KIDS. I am all about helping Kiwi kids, but a place like this is really scary. I do not remember the last time I felt this nervous. Quite jazzy music playing. It was actually New Year's Eve that I cried. There was a moderate tear for Maid in Manhattan. I encourage you to cry. It is good to get out your emotion. WHAT DO HORROR HOUSES AND CUTE BABIES HAVE IN COMMON? 'NOT A LOT' IS THE ANSWER I'M GUESSING MOST OF YOU WOULD EXPECT. IN WELLINGTON THEY'RE GOING HAND IN HAND. ONE MAN WHO LOVES GIVING KIWIS A GOOD OLD FRIGHT IS BRINGING HIS 'TALENT' TO THE NORTH ISLAND TO RAISE MONEY FOR PLUNKET. REBECCA EDWARDS GOT A SNEAK PEAK AT THE TERROR THAT'S AWAITING THOSE WHO HEAD ALONG. IN JUST A COUPLE OF DAYS THIS EMPTY, EERIE WAREHOUSE HAS TRANSFORMED INTO SOMETHING NIGHTMARES ARE MADE OF. SCARY NOTE WE HAVE PEOPLE WET THEMSELVES. WE HAVE PEOPLE THAT HAVE CODE BROWNS. HONESTLY? YES, YES, VERY MUCH SO. BANG! BUILDERS, ACTORS ` ALL OF THEM VOLUNTEERS ` I'M HOPING THAT THEY'RE GONNA GO HOME WITH NIGHTMARES AND NOT WANNA SLEEP AND LOOK UNDER THEIR BED BEFORE THEY GET IN. ARE BRINGING THE SPOOKY... GORGEOUS. ...AND THE DEAD TO LIFE. SCARY NOTE IT'S SO MUCH FUN ACTING AND SCARING PEOPLE. I KNOW THAT SOUNDS REALLY BAD. TAPPING THEY'RE ALL LED BY THIS GUY, RORY FOLEY,... I DO A CHAINSAW OR A VERY DERANGED DOCTOR. ...A TIMARU FARMER WHO'S A LITTLE OBSESSED WITH TERRIFYING PEOPLE ` ALL IN THE NAME OF RAISING MONEY FOR CHARITY, THIS TIME PLUNKET. THIS IS AN OPPORTUNITY TO DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT THAT PEOPLE WOULDN'T EXPECT. YOU WOULDN'T PUT BABIES AND HORROR HOUSES TOGETHER IN THE SAME SENTENCE (CHUCKLES) VERY OFTEN, SO IT'S GREAT. RORY'S SO GOOD AT WHAT HE DOES, NEXT MONTH HE'S EVEN RECEIVING A QUEEN'S SERVICE MEDAL FOR HIS FUNDRAISING EFFORTS. A PSYCHOTIC CLOWN THAT CHASES PEOPLE WITH A CHAINSAW ` YOU KNOW, (CHUCKLES) 'LET'S GIVE HIM AN AWARD. HE'LL BE FINE.' CREEPY LAUGHTER SO IF YOUR HEART'S UP FOR IT,... WE HAVE A LOTTA PEOPLE CRY. WE HAVE A LOTTA PEOPLE WHO HAVE NIGHTMARES FOR DAYS ON END, BUT IN THE BACK OF YOUR MIND, WHAT YOU'RE DOING IS ACTUALLY MAKING A DIFFERENCE FOR PLUNKET. OMINOUS MUSIC NOW, A WARNING ` IF THAT DIDN'T SCARE YOU, WE HAVE REBECCA LIVE FROM THE HAUNTED HOUSE IN LOWER HUTT. I have no idea how I got myself into this he best thing we can do is just crack into it. Oh my god. I do not even know what is going on here. OK, OK, OK, OK,. OK, OK. OK is rebecca's default. Oh my god! Roar! I hope it does not get to code Brown. No code Brown's, I promise. I cannot see anything. Oh my gosh. Oh my God! 'Oh my gosh, OK OK.' (SCREAMS) That was insanely loud. Oh my God. I just want to get out of here. I actually think my heart is going to explode from my chest. SCREAMS HORN TOOTS I do not know which way to go. SCREAMS Oh dear. I love it when people get scared and they have their words. You aspire to be scared. I do not understand. I am not interested. And yet you revel in it. That looks fantastic. I would love to give it a go. COMING UP NEXT WEEK ON THE SHOW ` WE'RE AT LAKE RONIX IN CHRISTMAS, FLORIDA. AND FOR ACTION SPORTS PROFESSIONALS, THIS IS INDEED CHRISTMAS. SADLY, THOUGH, IT'S ALSO WHERE OUR WORLD-CLASS WAKEBOARDER BRAD SMEELE CRASHED HEAVILY ON A RAMP AND BROKE HIS NECK. WE'RE WITH HIM AS HE RETURNS HERE FOR THE FIRST TIME TO STARE DOWN THE DEMONS OF THAT DAY THAT CHANGED HIS LIFE FOREVER. THAT'S ALL PART OF MY REASON FOR COMING HERE AND... JUST WANTING TO FACE IT. THAT'S SEVEN SHARP NEXT WEEK. AN amazing story. I know his mum. He is full of determination. Just getting there, do not underestimate that. It is a big deal. If you are some kind of dad, have an amazing day on Sunday. It is not the presence, it is time. ONE NEWS CAPTIONS BY IMOGEN STAINES AND CATHERINE DE CHALAIN. ONE NEWS CAPTIONS BY IMOGEN STAINES AND CATHERINE DE CHALAIN. CAPTIONS BY DESNEY SHAW AND SHRUTIKA GUNANAYAGAM. CAPTIONS WERE MADE POSSIBLE WITH FUNDING FROM NZ ON AIR.