Previously on Married At First Sight ` Where are you at right now? At the commitment ceremony, truths were exposed... I'm not sure about the physical attraction at this point because of his metrosexual side. ...and emotions laid bare,... Being a gay male alone in Auckland is very hard. It's hard to find (VOICE CRACKS) someone you connect with. ...with all couples choosing... Stay. ...to stay in the experiment. Three couples took on surrender dates. (LAUGHS) Oh my God! It's really selfless of him to pick something that he knew I would like. She's definitely not quiet. (BLEEP). OK, I'll just sit in silence and talk to myself, then. OK. Great. And the first home visit... My friends will talk to me tomorrow, and they will turn around and give an opinion. ...saw relationship cracks... Do you see a future with Wayne? ...split wide open. I think we've just gotta sit down and have a really frank conversation. Tonight ` the remaining home visits... Can you lift up your top and show us your abs? Holy shit. ...see tougher questions,... It's not a compromise; it's a yes or no. ...tougher answers,... Why didn't you tell me this before the cameras were on? This is, like, make or break now for our relationship. ...and what could be the beginning of the end. How do I get to know you if you don't open up? Oh, this is going to sound really bad. I don't know what more to do. (BELL TOLLS, TENSE NOTES) Step one. Buy a SodaStream. Step two. Save up to 2000 bottles a year by using on reusable bottle. Step three. Planet saved. Step four ` watch Married At First Sight NZ, thanks to SodaStream. It's home visits week, and everyone is at a different point in this part of the experiment. Some couples are preparing to depart. I think it's really important that we see each other in our natural environments. Yeah. It's like we're like endangered birds or something. It is. (LAUGHS) 'See each other in their natural environment.' I think the home town visits are most important for Monique, just because her friends and family are her life. So, what would you say to them? They might interrogate you, though, actually. (GRUNTS) Ooh. I think she'd always have some doubts around whether we could work or not if we haven't had the opportunity to see how I interact with her friends and family. Isn't it the role of friends to know us better than we know ourselves? Yeah, I guess so. It'd be kinda cool to do, I don't know, quad-biking, white-water rafting or bungee. Yeah. 'I'm in Auckland. This is my home town. I feel comfortable here. Here he's a bit reserved still.' It'll be interesting to see how he... he, um, performs down in Christchurch. So, yeah. I'm excited to see what your city has to offer. I'm definitely nervous. Trying to please someone that you've only just really met. It's a good opportunity for me to try and do that. But at the same time, it all` it could potentially backfire. Ottie has travelled with Gareth to his hometown of Cromwell, where he still lives with his parents. GARETH: This is it. OTTIE: Exciting. Welcome to our humble abode. SING-SONGY: Hello. Honey, I'm home. Gareth's home is really cute. It's really homely and warm and welcoming, just like they were. It's exactly as I imagined it would be, actually. Is that yours? Right above your head. Was it your bouquet? (CHUCKLES) It was my bouquet hanging above the bed. So, it looks decayed and horrifying now, but I'm sure it meant something special. (CHUCKLES) Oh, that's cute. The bouquet was a bit of a surprise. Mum obviously got a hold of it at the wedding and brought it home and hung it above the bed. Very romantic. At least one of is, between you, me and your mum. (BOTH LAUGH) Aw, look at baby Jess and baby... There is that big difference between me and him, with him living at home with his parents. You look like your papa. I feel a bit nervous about being in a really close family environment. You know, Gareth's family is a really close-knit and loving family. (ALL GREET ONE ANOTHER, LAUGH) OTTIE: Hello, hello. Hi, how are ya? Good to see you again. Good to see you too. Hi. Ah! Mwah! (GENTLE MUSIC) It's definitely important for Ottie to, you know, get along with my friends and family because they are a big part of my life. Cheers. ALL: Cheers. (GLASSES CLINK) Oh, that was gonna be a question. What? Any more tattoos since the...? I have 11 more tattoos. (CHUCKLES) Gareth got my handwriting tattooed on him. Yeah, he was stoked. Good story and... Bad handwriting. (LAUGHS) 'They seem to be very relaxed with each other and they seem to be laughing a lot.' I love her. (LAUGHS) I think she's great. So, where you guys gonna live after the experiment? Um... Oh shit. (CHUCKLES) That's a question for my husband. (LAUGHS) BOTH: Um... That was for both. I have no idea at this stage. It's only been two weeks. Yeah. The position that our couples find themselves in is quite a challenge. They've now reached a point where there's an expectation that they're actually not only on the same page, but for some the same book in terms of having a conversation around what the next chapter may look and sound like. Just surviving and still living after the show is the first hurdle. 'A big issue is the life that I've chosen doesn't include children.' I did actually ask Gareth if he wanted children within, like, 10 minutes of knowing him. Do you want children? Do you` Do you have children? I don't have children. I do want a family, though. You want a family? Yeah. 'I've done lots of work... work on myself about not having children.' But Gareth would have to work out whether he's really sure. 'So I have to see what Gareth has to say.' It's a big one for Gareth, I think. Yeah. (DISCORDANT STRING MUSIC) Ksenia and Wayne are returning from a home visit which Wayne didn't feel went well. MAN: Wayne, you all right? We've come back to Auckland, we've organised a meeting with the professionals. If one says leave, do you both leave? We just wanna clarify with them a few things on our relationship ` what we can do to either try and fix it... Good luck, mate. CHUCKLES: Yeah. See you around, bro. ...or go our separate ways. Hello. WOMAN: Right. So, here we are. He seems grumpy; he seems moody. He's the one who wanted to have expert session. So, you've called to see us today, and we're really keen to see` So, Wayne called. (LAUGHS) Yes. He needs` in need of help. Oh, so it's all him? (LAUGHS) He needs help? He needs help. OK. There's probably not enough help in this world for me, but... So, Wayne, what sort of help do you need? I understand, in this bubble, we do` you need a spark. Mm. You need that 'holy shit' moment, 'This is gonna work.' Mm. We haven't had it, and we're realistic, and we're sort of like, 'Is it gonna happen?' We are two different people, and I'm confused a lot of the time. Mm. So are you confused because the messages Ksenia's giving you? Probably not the messages, just... Do we have to do something to spark the interest? You're saying, 'What are the rules here? Am I missing something?' Yeah. Right. The words that you were using as part of the selection and application process ` loyal, loyal, um, laughter, laughter a lot, you wanted a lot and, and Wayne... That's definitely a tick, yeah. ...used laughter a lot. Kindness, compassionate, supportive. So you actually said that you were quite protective, and you mentioned that you were quite supportive. In terms of protective, protective over what in terms of this relationship? Or who? Protective of a person I'm with. Or is it protective of you? Of yourself? (SOMBRE NOTES) No, I don't think in a relationship I think about myself first, no. I would like to think I'm first protective of the people I'm with, but I'm probably wrong. And that's OK. We're not saying that you should be open and vulnerable to everything and everybody. But in terms of being protective in this experiment, it's protecting yourself to the extent that you're not then opening up and taking away the confusion because there's a lot of confusion, but there's a lot of miscommunication. You open up to a person ` or I will ` when you have a feeling still with that person. But how do I get to know you if you don't open up before that? Mm. That's what I'm trying` Well, it depends, it depends. What do you mean by 'open up'? I am a bit different; I am a bit more reserved. I am a bit more stand-offish and awkward. OK, can I just say it's coming through pretty loud and clear, rightly or wrongly ` and this is not a criticism, it truly isn't ` but you don't have feelings for Wayne. (TENSE NOTE) OK, can I just say it's coming through pretty loud and clear, rightly or wrongly ` and this is not a criticism, it truly isn't ` but you don't have feelings for Wayne. I like him, and I can say a million, a million nice things about Wayne. There's still one more box to tick. I guess that's the` that connection, that chemistry you might have with that person, I think that's the third box. The X factor. Yeah. Probably need more of the real life,... Yeah. ...more time to where we can just sit on the beach for an hour and just watch the sunset and talk. But, um` Oh. Look at that face. What does that say? Oh, she hates sand, I think. No, no. What was that for? I don't wanna watch sunset and stuff. I'm not that romantic. We are very different. Yeah, we've got completely different view on everything. And that's why I'm not 100%... there. I didn't actually know that. (LAUGHS) What's that? I didn't know that she wasn't romantic. Could have told me that a couple of weeks ago. (LAUGHS) Well, this is communicating, isn't it? And this is, once again, not making assumptions. You're both really similar in the sense that when the going gets tough, you both retreat and withdraw. That's really trouble. Because at least if one person's pursuing, there's some energy coming in and the other one might bite back, and any sort of communication's better than no communication. I don't wanna walk away from this and go, 'Yeah, I called it too early,' and then next week we're still talking and stuff and she goes, 'Shit, why didn't we try harder?' or something. So you're still attracted to Ksenia? Yeah. I mean, she's a beautiful girl. I'm just trying to get the substance part right. Right. Um, of where we can get along... more than friends. I do that through activities and stuff like that. So either` I'm not sure if you want me to get her to come out more or you want me to calm down and, um` What, go shopping? (LAUGHS) Yeah... I can't drink as much tea as her, but Jesus... (LAUGHS) You two are really confusing. (LAUGHS) Well, that's the thing` You came in here, really, saying, 'Look, both of you, it's not working. I'm not really into him; I'm not really into her. 'We think we're out.' And I feel like we've almost gone full circle here. The real question, Wayne, that you're asking, that you didn't realize you're asking is, 'How do I learn to communicate better?' (SOLEMN MUSIC) And I'm actually hearing you say that too, Ksenia. I actually really thought that I was good on the communication front until I heard from them today and what she had to say. It's just a bit of a shame that it had to have this sort of meeting for her to tell them, for me to realise. I wonder if it would be really valuable at the moment to go off and have a little bit of alone time and really dig deep and explore where you are at right now, before you have a conversation. I'm committed to finishing it. Whether it's something we're gonna both do together, I'm not sure. I'm definitely not a quitter and, um, I'll definitely try my hardest until I know there's nothing left in the tank. This is really great stuff because this is how people learn and grow as individuals, and this is how they can potentially have a really enriching, loving relationship. We had a few things that we've never spoke about. I think we made lots of assumptions. So I think it was good to let it all out, in a way. If you learn something about yourself, about yourselves from this, then that's fantastic. Yeah, that's why I'm here. As long as I'm learning,... Great. ...um, that's all cool. As long as I'm teaching... (LAUGHTER) (BIRDS TWEET) And welcome to my house. Hello. (CHUCKLES) Hello. Hi. This is Shay, this is James, and this is Anna. This is my wife, Monique. Hi, nice to meet you. I'm really stoked that Monique can see me here today in my home environment. I don't know who to hug first. How's it goin'? Ah, surviving. We're gonna be using these home visits to try and figure out if we can take our relationship to the next level. Both of us are really comfortable as friends, but there's still something that I think we're looking for, and I'm really hopeful that these home towns will sort of present that. So, um, what's it like being married to Fraser? Um,... first I was like, 'Oh my goodness, what have I done?' He's tall. (LAUGHTER) But now it's good. Now it's really good. We're quite similar in lots of ways. That's good. Yeah. It's not every day that you find someone that shares just weird habits and finds weird things interesting. We both get irritated by the same thing` Yeah. ...yet do the very thing that irritates us. Yeah, calls for some self-development, I guess, in that way. (LAUGHTER) I am a little bit nervous about Monique seeing my bedroom. I've heard horror stories about your room from, like, honestly, from so many people. Like, your friends, your` You are in for an absolute treat. (LAUGHTER) I only recently moved into the house, and I didn't get on to buying a bed as fast as I probably should have. There isn't even room for a second person here. No. I'm not sure I feel comfortable saying how many people I would normally bring home to my bedroom, but I can say that I haven't brought someone home to this house yet. So Monique is the first girl to step into this bedroom. I do have some good news for you. Yes? And that's I have actually booked us into a hotel to stay in. Hooray! So you have a real bed. You have a real bed. Very good, very good, yay. So we'll, we'll be staying` Oh my goodness. Oh no, don't! This is the worst! (LAUGHS) This is a nice waistcoat, as well (!) And you've got your novelty ties for your... for your Casual Friday. That's good. (BOTH LAUGH) (MAJESTIC MUSIC) Food, food, food, food. And wine. And wine, wine, wine, wine, wine and food, food, food, food, food. We've just arrived at the most amazing, beautiful winery. And I'm wearing trackpants, so I look like a dirtbag, but that's typical me. Cheers. Welcome to Cromwell. To... We have to cheers to something. Cheers to... uh, Big Macs and Dr Phil. Yeah, sounds good. So, how are you enjoying the experiment? I don't know how to be a wife ` a modern wife. What is a modern wife, though? Oh, just a wife. I don't know, traditional. At least, like, we've been honest with each other, which has made it ` well, for me ` feel comfortable around you. Yeah. Um, yeah. A big issue is the family issue. Gareth wants a family. But he's also 26, and I'm seven years older than him. I had a question for the experts and I completely blanked it about family, like, about baby issue` Oh yeah. I was like, um, people are on the fence about having a family or not, or people are very into it. There's not many people that are like, 'No.' I've carried that guilt. I've already done that before. The person I was with and loved wanted kids, and I didn't. How do you...? You can't. I had to come to a place where I was prepared to say, 'This is what I want. You decide what you want.' (SOLEMN MUSIC) (CICADAS CHIRP) People are on the fence about having a family or not, or people are very into it. There's not many people that are like, 'No.' I had to come to a place where I was prepared to say, 'This is what I want. You decide what you want.' You've been very clear from the start, and that was cool. Mm. But I think you need to also realise that, from my side, it is something that I can compromise on. The thing is compromise. I don't think it should be a compromise. I've, like, had moments where I've been like, 'Man, it would be really cool.' Yeah. But at the same time, it's like, if it doesn't happen, then... Mm. Like, I would be happy with somebody that has children already, but I think to partner me with somebody younger... that isn't totally opposed to children puts us totally on a back foot, and I think that's really unfair. I think the problem is that Gareth would think that it's not an issue now. And when it did become an issue, I'm the one that gets hurt. My lifestyle, like with me being able to pack up and leave, children don't fit into that, if that makes sense? Yeah. 'I feel really sorry for him in this situation, because he has to take that journey now.' It's not a compromise. It's a yes or no. I think if you were 40, it might be different. Yeah. I think from Ottie's side of things, she doesn't think it's compromisable, but I do. We've said right from the start that we're taking this day by day. Yeah. That would be a question to them. I'd say, 'Well, how do we work that out?' Yeah. Yeah. It's always been something I've thought about, but I've never been 100% sure on. At this stage I can't say what I'm gonna feel in a year; I don't know. But yeah it will be something we discuss, I guess, as we go. That's the thing, is that you can ignore it and ignore it and ignore it, and that resentment builds. And I'm not... There's no way that I'd ever do that again. (GENTLE MUSIC) (BIRDS SING) (BRIGHT PIANO MUSIC) Is this where you live? Yeah. What if he doesn't like it down here? And as soon as he steps into my house, what happens if he's... like, 'This place isn't what I expected'? So yeah, it's nerve-racking bringing someone new into somewhere I find comfortable. So the flight down wasn't too bad, eh? Nah, it was good. Actually had some good views. Yeah. 'For some reason, I feel like he's really nervous. 'I don't know why. I was like, "This is your time to kinda shine."' This is your time to sell it to me and this is your time to just be yourself and just be confident. You take the lead and I'll just follow. Do you want me to just walk around, or do you show me around? So, this is a kitchen. This is the kitchen. Nice. Obviously you've got, like, a gym freak that lives here. Yep, he's very hectically into his gym. Oh my God, your fridge and cupboards are empty. Whoa, there's, like, nothing in your... Penis pasta? Great (!) So that was for a birthday` 'Increases in size when cooked.' Great (!) Nice. (QUIRKY MUSIC) I can't believe that that's the only thing that you saw in the pantry that stood out. It's right there. It's actually a cock and balls, right there. (CHUCKLES) Ah, yeah, so, my room. So, that's an absolute mess in there. When I saw his cupboard, I was like, 'Oh, that's a bit of a pig sty.' Like, it's a bit gross. He could've tidied that shit up before I came down, or got someone to do it. Why have you got bowling shoes? So, I bowl. Can you put them on for me? No. No, put them on. You have to. Oh, for (BLEEP) sake. They look like clown shoes. (BLEEP). I really wanna meet his flatmate, because I haven't really seen him bond with other people, like, in his circle since our wedding day, really, so that's a big thing I really want to happen, yeah. I'll be observing. I'll sit here while he comes in. Oh he's a big unit. Hiya, bro. Hi. How are ya? Good. I'm Sam. Tony, mate. Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you. I was just saying you're a big unit, God, walking in. Yeah, yeah, you know, bit of hard work in the gym and... So you've just been to the gym? Yeah, yeah. Ah, nice. Oh my God, OK. What's his name? WOMAN: Tony. Tony. OK. Um... 'He's bloody hot.' He's... He's a beautiful creature. I` I'm not anything like you ` like, big or anything ` but I go to the gym to keep active. Yeah. And I was, like` I'm surprised you don't make him go to the gym. I try. I try. I think I pestered him literally every day. So now I'll leave it in your hands to make him go. I'll sit down with my diet food and... (CHUCKLES) (MISCHIEVOUS MUSIC) Can I see your abs? (CHUCKLES) Can you lift up your top and show us your abs? I hope you don't mind. (CHUCKLES) Holy shit. (MUSIC CONTINUES) There you go. You need to be like this. There you go. Make` Make him like that. OK, that's jackpot right there. Get my husband to look like that, please. (MUSIC CONTINUES) So you're single? Yeah. Just enjoying life, eh. Nah, he was` He... Look, I'm a bit speechless. (CHUCKLES) Fraser has arranged a get-together with close friends who attended their wedding. Oh, hey. Hi! They all have burning questions to ask the newlyweds. But one topic is at the forefront of everyone's mind. Have you seen his dick? No! Slash, not talking about physical intimacy. You just gave an answer, though! Oh yeah. (LAUGHTER) Is that a true answer, though? Yes, that is a true answer. You just gave it away again! No, we're not talking about physical intimacy! All we do is hold hands. Aww, you guys have gone that far (?) Yeah. And praise the Lord. Even if you guys end up staying as friends, do you think you'll still have a slam? (LAUGHS) That's a really good question. I've not even thought about that. So you know how it's kinda like a bubble and, like, imagine if, like, you thought it was all going good and stuff, and then you had sex and then, like, afterwards you're like, 'Oh my gosh.' Oh no. Like, he wasn't who I thought he was or something. Are you expecting that? 'That was tiny.' (LAUGHTER) What? I've always shared my` I just kinda wanna see what happens, like, after the experiment. Your flatmate seems cool. Yeah, he is real cool. He's a really good-looking dude. He's a really good-looking` You can't (BLEEP) husband-swap. Huh? You can't swap. (LAUGHS) I'm just saying, he's a really good-looking dude. He's totally different to what I thought. I don't know what I was expecting. He's not gay. I told Tayler, I was like, 'So if you piss me off, you know which room I'm going into next.' (LAUGHS) Getting close. Are we skydiving? No. You like animals, eh? No. Oh. Well, we're going to a petting zoo. (BLEEP) off. Are we? No. Are we going to Adrenalin Forest? Yes. Are we? Yeah. Is that, like, high ropes and shit? Yeah. Yus! Are you actually serious? Yeah. He's been harping on that he wants to do something really adventurous. Oh, you do know me. Yeah, mate. I need someone to come on adventures with me, I need someone to push me, I need someone who loves adrenaline. I'm excited to see what we do, yeah. (UPBEAT MUSIC) (GROANS) Finally, something exciting. Yup. This is something I've been wanting to do since day one since I met you. (DRAMATIC MUSIC) Nailed it? Nailed it. Not gonna give you a kiss on camera, but you nailed it. (CHUCKLES) I'm so (BLEEP) excited. I mean this is the first time I've seen Tayler, literally, step up. We're out doing stuff that I would wanna do on a Saturday or a Sunday. He's listening to what I want and what interests me, which is really cool. This is your first gym session, I feel. Holy shit, that's a good (BLEEP) workout, that's a sweat. I think this is the most I've seen you work out in, what, two weeks of knowing you. (MUSIC CONTINUES) What are you sitting down for? A rest. Oh. (GRUNTS) Yaah. Shit. You won't wanna split your legs open on this. Hold on. Wait for me. Yeah, I'm waiting. Slow and steady, I guess? Doing activities like this is good. Wasn't a competition at all. (CHUCKLES) Feel like a little monkey. Whee! I wanna create awesome memories. Hey, I wish that went faster. Oh (BLEEP), that's hard. (TUIS CALL) Hurry up. I'm gonna be really disappointed in myself if I can't do this. You know, just, hurry up. # I came in like a wrecking ball! # (LAUGHS) Oh my God. That is so cringe. I might get my singing career going now. (BLEEP), that's hard. No, (BLEEP), I'm gonna make you go first. He hasn't seen me in a physical situation. I was like, 'All right, I'll step up to the plate and show him, I guess, how it's done.' (EXHALES SOFTLY) It's hard, eh. No. You're (BLEEP) making it look easy. 'I think he may have underestimated how physically fit I am.' This is the most I've seen you man up. (LAUGHS) When I say that work is my gym, basically, it most definitely is. (BLEEP). Holy shit. If you wanted to push me outside my comfort zone, you (BLEEP) got it. Oh (BLEEP). (CHUCKLES) It's not elegant at all, is it? I am the competitive type, so I need to, like, own up and do this. Shit. Oh, my foot's tangled. (CHUCKLES) (GROANS) You all right? (BLEEP) hell. Holy shit. PANTS: Oh my God. Good? Well, actually, you're a tradie, so I feel like you should be good at this shit. That's my excuse. I didn't realise how physical it was gonna be and how physically challenging it was gonna be. I am competitive, but when it comes to that` At least I done it still, so, yeah. Oh my God, my... I'm shaking. That has literally gotta be one of the most hardest things I've done in my life, I think. I'd rather jump out of a plane. I'd rather do anything else than that again. (EXHALES) See you at the bottom. (LINE WHIRRS) I really enjoyed myself. It was just a good way to get some stress out, get in there and, I guess, get some hard work done. (ZIP LINE WHIRRS) What the`? Oh my God. (LAUGHS) Oh, (BLEEP). Bye! (REFLECTIVE MUSIC) I think, for me, it's gonna take a lot more than a flying fox to, um,... see if that spark's still there with Tayler. Done. (GROANS) You're sweaty. Go away. (LAUGHS) (CHUCKLES) Only cos I made you work. 'Sorry, it's a hard one. I don't know...' What do I really need from him to make this possibly work? (MUSIC RISES) (QUIRKY, INTRIGUING MUSIC) MONIQUE: I love Wellington. Honestly, I've always really liked Wellington. Yeah, it's... Like, Mum's from here. I've got family up here and stuff. I really like it. After this experiment, if we're still together, like, taking it slow, getting to know each other, like, outside of the experiment first` Yeah, like, long distance first. Definitely. There's no reason why one of us can't fly,... Yeah. ...like, every weekend or so. Ooh. Every weekend would be too many. Or every second weekend. Yeah. I don't know. Cos you` Like, I know, that we, like, signed up for, like, marriage. Yes. And that's, like, for a lifetime. But when you hear that word, like, 'for a lifetime', does that not, like, scare the shit out of you a little bit? God, yes. That's scaring me more than I thought that it was going to. Oh, well, don't worry. One of us dies first. (LAUGHS) I think... Oh, this is gonna sound really bad. Well, you're holding my hand, so that's all right. OK. You can make it up. I did think that I would, like... I do really like you, but I was kind of expecting a bit more of, like, a... You know, like, that feeling when you have, like, a crush on someone and you feel like... (SQUEALS HAPPILY) But I think because, like` probably cos I met you in such a, like, weird situation` The stress of the process got in the way? Yeah. That it, like` I'm thinking/hoping that that's the reason why I don't have the, like, (SQUEALS HAPPILY) kinda feeling. You know what I mean? Oh, sorry. You don't have to worry. It goes both ways. Oh. (BOTH LAUGH) So... Well, shit. (BOTH LAUGH) It's always awkward in a relationship if one person is madly in love and the other person is not quite feeling it. That's why I wanna continue, like, dating you outside of all, like, the experiment thing to see if it's just that that's putting me off. Obviously, we wanna both be, like, real into each other. Like, that would be ideal. That's the, like, best outcome. I wanna have the, like, (SQUEALS HAPPILY). Like, 'I've got a crush on this person' feeling. I really like Fraser. He's a cool person. He's really nice, but it's, like` It takes more than someone being a nice person to be, like, wanting to be their wife/husband. I'm just, like, wondering, like... I'm what you need, but not necessarily what you want? (DRAMATIC NOTE) (BELL TOLLS, HEARTBEAT THUMPS) Switch to Vodafone and get Vodafone TV Intro and three months' free Switch to Vodafone and get Vodafone TV Intro and three months' free unlimited broadband. That's over $640 of value. (SEABIRDS SQUAWK) Ottie is now hosting Gareth in her hometown ` Christchurch. But unlike Gareth, her house is all hers. OTTIE: This is my home. GARETH: Ooh-wee! Taco! Hi, mate! This is my home. This is pretty much it. (BARKS) One space. One space. Yeah. Just a lounge and a kitchen? Yeah. Nice. Yeah. Pretty much. I think Gareth coming into my environment will show him how independent I am ` you know, being a sole homeowner and things like that. Like being at the museum, eh? It is. That's not creepy at all (!) Oh yeah. It bleeds out its eyes. I'm not even surprised. No. (CREEPY MUSIC) You sort of pick up who someone is in their own environment. He'll get a better understanding of me, and we'll see if that makes things better or worse. (CHUCKLES) I wouldn't open any of the drawers. Seriously, don't. (CHUCKLES) What Ottie had told me ` her house was exactly, kind of, what I thought it would be, with all the bugs and skulls and everything around there. So it's cool to see she's got her own flair in her house. So, I've got some artwork that's arrived. These were meant to go above my bed as, like, a disclaimer to my new husband. (LAUGHS) That's not scary at all (!) Now, packing for Christchurch. Do I need to pack underwear? (CHUCKLES) Yes. OK. All right. No speedos. I'm looking forward to going home and seeing my mum and my friends. Planning on a brisk walk anywhere? Well, some exercise, definitely. It'll be a bit of a test as well, in a way, cos I already know his friends really, really like me and, um... That sounds a bit cocky, but... (LAUGHS) You know, like, I really liked his friends a lot; we got along really well, but he didn't make that much of an effort with mine. Do you need a separate bag for your skincare and tan? Well, I was thinking about it. (BOTH LAUGH) And tan? There really isn't any pressure, cos I am who I am. Um, they're either gonna like that, or they're gonna hate that. Dave, my suitcase is half the size of yours. (CHUCKLES) I believe that. You are not gonna get all that in there. Well, I don't care. I'm low-maintenance. You are the high-maintenance one in this relationship. This environment is not our environment, so it's a chance for me to, you know, see how Julia lives day to day. That's really important. And she's gonna get to see me in my environment as well. I can't wait to get down there and do it. Also arriving in Christchurch are Monique and Fraser. FRASER: Ah, this is gonna be so cool to meet your friends. At, like, not a wedding-type situation. At not a wedding-type situation. Like, stressful... I hope that they like me, because I know how important Monique's friends and family are to her. Yay! How are you? I know that if I didn't get along with them, that that's gonna be a real deal-breaker for her. But Monique's had no chance to catch up with her friends since the wedding,... I've missed you. ...so she's keen to hear their impressions from the day and share some of her own thoughts on Fraser, up until this point. Do you think he has, good, like, communication and stuff? Because, otherwise, it would be, like... Oh, yeah, no, no, he's actually, like, really, really good at, like, communicating, and, like, he has like really, really high emotional intelligence, which is good. Like, he's really on to it. But it's just kinda like I don't know if I'm... that... attracted to him. I don't think you're, probably, the guy that she'd normally go for. Yeah. But, in saying that, there's obviously a reason that you two have been matched. We're not each other's normal type, so we've got to figure out is that a good thing or a bad thing? And she's obviously very independent. She always has a mind of her own. Yeah. I'd say she's a very, like, sorta, strong, like, loyal kind of person... Mm-hm. ...as well. Everyone was literally like, 'This is a perfect match.' Like, you know... Wow, that's` I'm, like, mildly surprised. We're both really good at over-analysing everything. Well, Fraser overanalyses, like, this much. And I overanalyse maybe, like, this much. So it would be good if we could just, like, not overanalyse, and just be like, boom! Like, let's just see what happens. She's not had a lot of... Well, she's never been in love. And could that happen as a result of this process? Because I know, for myself, I don't... fully invest in someone if I don't see that happening, because I am very much afraid of being hurt. You've gotta give it a chance, cos... Oh yeah. Like, I definitely wanna give it a chance, cos otherwise it would be, like, you know... Like, that's the whole point. Like, what a waste otherwise. Like, yeah. What are you thinking long-term? Have youse had that discussion? It's gonna be hard to know, like, with the time we've got left to figure that question out. We know what we've got so far, but we don't know if it's enough. I know I have a tendency to usually make quick decisions, so, honestly, I can go from being fully invested in someone that I've been dating for a couple of weeks to zero ` overnight. (TENSE MUSIC) (GENTLE MUSIC) Hello! Hi! Here they are! Hi, everybody. Hey! Hello! I'm Ottie. (LAUGHTER) I'm the groom. Hey! 'My friends are this eclectic bunch of circus people.' So, how are you two getting along? (LAUGHTER) 'My friends are brutally honest.' So they'll definitely kick me up the arse if they think it's no good for me. You guys can grill Gareth. (TENSE MUSIC) Oh, here we go. Oh-ho-ho! Honesty. Yep. Um, it comes and goes. (TENSE MUSIC) I'd buy a dog for loyalty. I feel like that was a dick move. (LAUGHS) Um, yeah, that was` I've already got a dog. Don't need another. (TENSE MUSIC CONTINUES) Yeah, I feel like he definitely got some crickets when he said that to my girls. (CHUCKLES) Whoopsie. (SOLEMN MUSIC) I did 'loyal' for 13 years, no problem, and I think that my friends see that and want the same for me. We've got some savage girls here. Watch out. SOFTLY: I just... Yeah, I just don't... I don't really have the energy for it. You know? He's, clearly, not putting in any energy, so... (CHUCKLES) why should we, you know? Mm. (TENSE MUSIC) I'll leave it up to Ottie's friends to say whether they like me or not. But, I mean, you know, I'm the type of person` If people don't like me, it doesn't bother me. I am who I am. I'm not gonna change. No problem. I'm mic'd, and it's still rolling. I absolutely do not think they'll end up being together. Um, I think they'll be... good friends, at the most. (BRIGHT MUSIC) Right now, David calls Dunedin home. And Julia is about to get her first glimpse of the life he leads when he's not in the experiment. DAVE: Home sweet home. I'm just gonna be exactly the way I would with friends and family and anyone that I, sort of, interact with. Home at last. Um, I thought you said you were a minimalist? I'm quite a minimalist. And so he's` His house is quite cluttered, in comparison. Well, I mean, not too cluttered, but a little bit. Um, but, you know, I told him that, (LAUGHS) in a really nice way. No, I'm kidding. It's cute, though. The lounge. Cute! A nice wee stash. Yeah. He's got reasonably good taste, so it's cool, yeah. And, uh, that amazing view of the city. Should we go down and see the dungeon? What sort of dungeon? Well, it's where all the music's made. (PLAYS UPBEAT RHYTHM) (YELLS) Oh my God! Holy m` I'm` OK. Um, love your passion... (LAUGHS) a lot, but I think I might go deaf. Do you, um, not see this as a nice way to serenade you first thing in the morning? (LAUGHS HEARTILY) That is a` That is a major deal-breaker. (CYMBAL CLANGS) Oh my God. (PLAYS BEAT ON DRUMS) I think coming to his house, I secretly, probably, am hoping that he's, uh, got some hidden masculinity underneath it all. I know what Julia wants, and it's totally there. I have that masculine side. Absolutely. There's no question about it. The home visit will... show her, um, I think, everything that she needs to see. (BELL TOLLS, HEARTBEAT THUMPS) (LIGHT MUSIC) Yum! So, they're, like, pumpkin chip sort of things? Yep. Oh my God. No big deal (!) Nice little tamarind` No big deal (!) Tamarind sauce ` is that right? Dave has arranged a small gathering with friends... Can you open the door? It's Susie. ...that Julia knows from the wedding... Aw. I was looking for` Oh my God, you smell amazing. Mmm. Nice to see you. Good to see you. ...and his sister, Leanne,... Oh my God, how weird. (BOTH LAUGH) ...who he's keen for a one-on-one catch-up with. Back in a tick. We're gonna catch up and just say hi. Yeah? But this also gives Julia an opportunity to chat. It'd be bloody difficult trying to get to know someone like this. Yeah. We get along so, so well, um... Is he your type, though? (EXHALES) I'm struggling with, um, his metrosexual side... Yes. ...quite a lot. He really owns it, and I think that's great. It's just not` You know, I'm attracted to masculinity. I mean, I'm gutted. I'm not gonna lie. We've become really good friends with the gay couple on the show, so, I think, you know, he's sort of` He has said that he's kind of become` That side has come out a lot more around them. Right. Oh God. OK. Yep. Yep. So, yeah. (CHUCKLES) He's like a little sponge, absorbing everyone. Yeah, he is. (LAUGHS) I'm like, 'Oh God.' I think you need to wait and see the other sides of Dave. Yeah, and it takes time as well, you know? The less-metro side is there. It really takes time. Um... Yeah. Well, look where you are. Like, this sort of situation- And with the pressure as well. Like, I'm really struggling with it, in all honesty. I mean, it is gonna take time. And once everything sort of calms down and you can be a wee bit more real, you'll see the less metro side. (CHUCKLES) It's there. Trust me. Really? It's really cool to hear that his` You know, some of his girlfriends have said that he does have this masculine side, and just to wait it out. So, who knows? Bit of hope there. (GENTLE MUSIC) Hello. Hello. This is really the chance for him to, kind of, I guess, just shine and just, like, me see a side of him that I haven't seen before. MAN: Congratulations. Yeah! You've half-downed your beer. There we go. Yeah, I know. How long did we keep you waiting? Nah. (LAUGHS) (LAUGHS) We had our first little tiff the other day. Yeah. Yesterday? The day before? The day before. Oh, what was it about? I find it hard with Tayler to communicate some things. It just kind of all came out, really, eh? Mm. And we just kind of really got pissed off at each other, and then I kind of just stormed off, and I was just like, '(BLEEP).' Cos he says he's a good communicator, but then he doesn't open up. I'm like, how are you a good communicator if you don't open up? This is, like, make or break now for our relationship. So I'm like` He's got one day, really, to show me... Yeah. Everything. You need to come out of your, like, little shell, Tayler... Yeah. ...and be you. I feel like something that I need from Sam is patience. I hope he hasn't made a decision, and I hope I can change it in time to really push his decision on... staying with me. I'll go into the deep questions, eh? Yeah. Oh (BLEEP). Here we go. You're like, 'Yeah, get the popcorn, get the popcorn.' If he's asking these questions, it's because you haven't been as open. Yeah. And I know that. I can side with that. Yeah. I know that. Yeah. So, why do you think Tayler is still single and looking for the one? To be honest, I think it's not Tayler; it's the other people he's been with. Yeah. The people he chooses. I don't like seeing him being used or being walked all over, you know? Did you hear that word? Yeah. Yeah. You hear that word? One main issue, apart from the communication, was one thing I've kept saying to Tayler is I feel like he lets me walk all over him. Yeah. Well, you didn't actually say that to my face. I had to find that out` Well, he had to find it out. But I've been honest about it now. By being polite and agreeing with what Sam says and... To me, I don't feel like that's me being walked all over. But, at the same time, I'm not gonna interrupt and say, 'Hold on, you're just being ridiculous. So` MAN: It's a great bar, and I think we should come here occasionally. Thanks, you've just interrupted that whole entire` (CHUCKLES) You can do it again. It's all right. (MAN SPEAKS INDISTINCTLY) That's all right. So, that was probably the real me. I don't care if people think I'm a bitch or people don't like me. Like, I don't care. I'll just say to their face, like, 'You shouldn't do that.' Yeah, yeah. That's good. And because Tayler can't, I guess, do that to someone who... You know? I don't know how much more I can possibly hint to him, or` I straight up tell him, and he's still not getting it. And it's really hard to see, because, I mean, look, we get on really well. We haven't had any arguments, really, apart from one little bicker. And I really think ` and it's really bad to say this ` that he's leaving it too late. Things are... Things are pretty good. But, obviously, there's, you know, other things as well which we're` which we're working on. What are some of the 'buts' that you have in this whole situation? I think we both really like each other, but there's a difference between, sort of, liking each other, and then, you know, having your hands on each other every God-given minute. So, you know, at the moment, it's me, actually, respecting her decision. OK. Which is why I've just, basically, been happy to, sort of, be where things are. Yeah. I think if I push it too hard, she'll freak out and` Mm-hm, yeah. ...and run. So it's kind of on her terms. You know, but I am very conscious of the fact that, you know, we're sort of getting to` We're getting to an end here. (LAUGHS) I really like him, Tayler. Do you like him? Yeah, I like him. But at the same time, I feel like I'm always the one (BLEEP)ing shit up. Yeah. I reckon the reason you think that is because of (BLEEP), and I didn't want to say that in front of him. And the person that I was referring to, the 'walking all over you', is (BLEEP). OK, how the (BLEEP) did I not see this? Before he comes over, can you see yourself with him in the future? Yeah. OK. He's... one of the smartest guys that I've met, and, um, he knows what he wants. He's confident. How the hell can you not like that smile and that laugh? Those eyes... That whole package put into one, and I'm... shitting myself, cos I'm, like, 'Oh, I could potentially screw this up.' (BLEEP). (LAUGHTER) I'm offended. Nah. (LAUGHS) (LIGHT MUSIC) JULIA: He's an absolute honey. We get along so bloody well. He's a big boy. Yeah. He's a big boy. And he is, you know, and half the time, I felt I was worried about him and how he was feeling and if I was hurting him or... You know? Because I think he thought it would be instant. So much pressure. There's a lot of pressure. Why am I not`? Why are we not sleeping together? And why are we not having, you know, incredible sex right now? Like, it-it's tough to... I think that, in itself, is creating` creating problems. That side has been tough. Yeah, it is. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. God, if it` Yeah, if it was instant like that, oh, I probably would never (BLEEP). (LAUGHS) Well, exactly. There's always something wrong. His friends are incredible, and that's a really attractive attribute for me. It really is. Massively. (LAUGHTER) So, are you staying here tonight? Um, yeah, yeah. Absolutely, yeah. Last night I thought about it, and I sort of wondered, from the intimate side of things, and I want to be able to be in that space where I want to jump his bones more than anything. I mean, I came on to this show to find love and have that passion. If something was to happen, it would depend on the moment. And I think if we were both in the same space, we're gonna know about it, and it would just happen. Will it bring us closer? I don't know. Ugh. I don't know. It's just` It's tough. Wayne and Ksenia have taken the experts' advice and spent time apart. This is their first opportunity to chat since their therapy session. What's happening? Ah, tell me what's happening. Well, you look very nice. Thank you. Yeah, there potentially is something there. Everyone needs a little bit of hope. We'll see what happens. Do you think we can develop and progress? Or do you just think we're two different people? I was always saying, um, it seemed like you sort of gave up. And I'm the sort of person ` it doesn't matter how much I'm in love with someone, I'm never gonna chase that person. If you see me shutting off, to be honest, I was just trying to be really respectful towards the slow process of getting to know you. Whether that means that I` I stepped back a bit, then I'm probably sorry for that, but I was just trying to be respectful. I think, just for a girl, in general, I think it helps when you feel like you're` when someone actually likes you. And then you kind of, sort of, warm up to that person and you start liking that person back. Maybe just that first` On the wedding day, you kind of, um, were saying compliments and stuff. But after that, you've kind of never complimented... or never made me feel like, oh, you know, that he likes me. (CHUCKLES SOFTLY) Um, I did, but I had to back off. Why? Because you didn't like compliments. And you... Why I didn't like compliments? I'm not sure. You felt them as pressure. Why do you think so? Cos you said that. I never said that. Uh, when I said that I'd won the wife jackpot, and your` Ah, it's not that` Yeah, it's like` I felt like you sort of took the ownership. Not like 'how good you look' and stuff. That's sort of a little bit hard for me to hear, because I always tried to make sure you were comfortable and didn't want to pressure you... to you feeling that you needed to do something more in the relationship. So... Just general compliments. Like, I don't know, I might look shit, but just saying, 'Oh, you look nice tonight,' or something, or 'this morning'. I think it's always nice to hear. It is nice to hear. And, unfortunately, I'm gonna disagree again, because I think I do that all the time. I thought that I was doing that. I can't figure you out. I'm just being 100% (BLEEP) honest. It's frustrating, and it (BLEEP) me off, cos I like knowing what's going on, so... I'm shitting my pants being so honest and being so vulnerable, but it's just emotionally draining. It's crazy. I'd love to be able to step back and be an actor and not give a (BLEEP) and go, 'Cool, let's just do this.' But I definitely give a (BLEEP), and that's why I'm so anxious and nervous and (BLEEP)ing worried is because I've invested so much into this that... I don't know what the result's gonna be. (TENSE MUSIC) I'm gonna go before I go on a rant. (BIRDSONG) So, obviously, you got to see everyone last night and had a yarn and things like that and... Mm. I don't know, do you think it's, um...? Do you think it's changed anything for you, or...? You already knew I really liked your friends, so there wasn't any surprises, really. How do you feel about me? (AWKWARD MUSIC) Um... I don't know. (SIGHS) Come here. (DRAMATIC MUSIC) It's a silly question to ask, but the thing is... Yeah. ...we're getting to a point` You know, they're gonna ask it. This whole physical attraction thing, it's a bit thing for Julia. You know? And it's now time to, probably, get down to addressing it. Like, you have no idea. Like, I am absolutely gutted that... Mm. ...there's not a physical attraction, you know? Like,... Mm. ...a lot. I really am, more than anything. I mean, that's what I came on this show for. Mm. So this is incredibly hard. Yeah. Because I really want it to happen, like, more than anything, because you tick every other box. Mm. It kind of overrides everything. You know? I think something's gonna have to` something's gonna have to give. Like what? What do you mean? Well, generally, if I'm with someone, and we find there's no attraction, um, we go to friends, and then we just generally stay as friends, and we don't see each other that much. Yeah, but you're single for a reason. So am I. That's why we're trying something different, you know? Let's just say I'm struggling with it as well. It's not just you. Oh my gosh. I knew that this would happen. Well, I'm trying. I'm not forcing anything. I knew` You know, like, it's so typical. You're like, 'Oh, well, um, you know, it's not about sex, 'and it's not about this, and blah, blah, blah.' But` It's got nothing to do with sex. It's about attraction. I don't want to go to Christchurch like this. Like, far out. Yeah, but I can't... Um... Why didn't you tell me this before the cameras were on? It's got nothing` You know, if it's about last night, because I went in the other room and did my own thing... Last night, he may have expected that something would happen, and, um,... it didn't. (LAUGHS) Well` Just tell me. Just be honest. It's not one thing. I'm trying to be honest with you, Julia. The unfortunate part is is that you just don't have a physical attraction, and it's nothing on you. Right. I can't help the way you feel. I know that. Right. Because it's` I'm not sure what to say. Because it's the elephant in the room. It's the only thing between us that's not working, as far as I'm concerned. Here you are, putting pressure on me again. I'm not putting pressure on you. You are! I'm being honest with you. (SIGHS) I just get the feeling he doesn't quite... I mean, he understands it, but I don't think he quite accepts it. All the other couples are, you know... It's the same with all the other couples as well. Yeah, but you're making it about the sex thing. I don't` I'm not interested in that. We're talking about a physical attraction. Which is sex. Well... Leads to sex. You know? No, but what you're saying is that you're not attracted to me, and you're finding it hard to move to that side of things, OK? Now, the others and that have, you know` have done some things, apparently. What? I don't know. Well, I mean, just from what I've heard. No, they haven't! OK. Right. Why? What's happened? OK, so you're gonna shut that down as well. GROANS: Oh my God. Well, we're not gonna talk about that, cos that's not our business and we don't, you know... Exactly. So what you're actually saying is that` So why would you even bring that up? Well, because that's what I'm saying, Julia, is that some people have moved to try some things, and regardless of the situation, they kind of know where they are now. OK? So, to say that no one's doing anything is not right. Um, what I'm saying is that, um, I respect the decision that you have made that` They're doing the same thing as us. ...because of where you are. Because of where you are. And that's cool. None of them are having sex, I don't think. I mean, I don't know. OK. (TENSE MUSIC) (GROANS) Oh God. I'm really trying here. I don't know what more to do. Next time ` Ksenia and Wayne struggle to see eye to eye. KSENIA: Do you like me or not? That's why I'm still here. Do you like me? I've asked first. I said yes. Strong bonds within the group... I have. I've missed you. ...cause issues for one marriage. Your first go-to is Sam. What the f`? I'm sensing jealousy here. And at the group dinner,... Oh, this is... a question I'm not gonna ask you. ...tough questions... Do you really think that spark can still develop between us? Do you ever worry that I will break your heart or abandon you? Do you have feelings for me? Let me take a sip. ...could deepen the cracks for some relationships. It's more about you than me. OTTIE: Very hard to tread carefully for someone else's secrets. He's not the nice boy he makes out. (DRAMATIC MUSIC) (BELL TOLLS, HEARTBEAT THUMPS) Captions by Tracey Dawson and Chelsea Brady. www.able.co.nz